When is it Resistance and When Do You Just Know?

Last week we had a very interesting turn of events. Not long after we moved to Bristol from Ireland and rented our Victorian house, the landlord proudly announced to us that he was putting the house on the market. This was after one of the steps on the top flight of stairs had broken through, pipes from the bathroom had leaked for a week through the hall ceiling into our vestibule over Christmas and New Year, and one of the waste pipes on the outside of the house had come undone (to name a few of the shortcomings).

We were given first choice, but at the price he was asking it was an immediate no. I tuned in to the whole thing in meditation and got quite a clear picture. The house was not going to sell. So I began affirming and visualising that we would move out when we decided we were ready to, for the highest good of all concerned.

The house was marketed by an independent estate agent and soon we had a call to say the viewings were to begin. It was a very harrowing experience for me, having strangers marching through my bedroom and bathroom, eying everything up and deciding whether or not they wanted to buy the property. It just felt like an invasion of my private space regardless of the fact that I knew that we did not face an imminent eviction.

Well, I went through quite a process of acceptance and surrender to deal with this and , over the months, I let go. Yet deep down, I knew that all was well. We had viewed many houses ourselves and I knew each time that this was not to become our new home. There was one house in particular that I really fell in love with and was so hard-pushed not to take it. Something inside just said no.

Last week another potential buyer wanted to come and see the house. I had become quite ambivalent by this time and took it all very easy. They came and left in an astonishingly short time, signalling that they had very little interest. And that evening when I returned from my kundalini yoga class with Mark Keane I noticed that something was different.

The estate agent had removed the ‘For Sale’ sign in the front garden. I smiled that knowing smile.

The next morning we received a call from our letting agency to let us know that the landlord had decided to remove the house from the market and wanted to offer us a new fixed term contract.

I could immediately feel the calmness and acceptance I felt inwardly. I had always known it would turn out this way and was thrilled that the manifestation had now revealed itself. It was a wonderful confirmation of my intuition.

I have come to rely on my intuition more and more and take action on the spiritual guidance I receive both in meditation and other moments of stillness.

So it was with great clarity that I told the letting agent that we wouldn’t be taking the landlord up on his offer as it suited us well to be in this position of flexibility, but thank you anyway. We had experienced a change of mindset and really embraced the idea of packing up and moving to find somewhere more suitable to live. This agreement allowed us to continue looking and then go when appropriate with no fuss, no pressure.

Isn’t it amazing how the tables can turn?

Now I am choosing to look for another home and am allowing it to manifest in the most appropriate place and timing.

Have you experienced something you thought was out of your control and gone into resistance around it? Or did you know with certainty how it would all end? I’d love you to share your comments below. Thanks.

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42 Responses to When is it Resistance and When Do You Just Know?

  1. Awesome story. I always say, “We are more in control when we relinquish control!”

    I will be in London and Worcester this summer. I love England!

    Speaker, Author, Self-Publishing Expert
    Creator of Bestseller in a Weekend

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for your comments Alicia. That’s so true what you said about control. I love that quote. I know London a bit but have never been to Worcester. Let me know when you’re coming. Who knows. I may be around although I live over in the West Country.

  2. Julie Labes says:

    Great story. I am a true believer in manifesting what you want. I know you will find the home of your dreams..all you have to do is imagine it feel it, and know you will live there

    Julie Labes,…The Fierce over 50 feels much younger point and click junkie loves to travel does not use a jogging stroller and before you ask this is NOT my granddaughter..Woman

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks Julie. I’m excited to find out where and when we will move. Everything is calm now.

  3. Hi Fiona,
    what a beautiful story. In many ways it reminds me of my parents who were trying to sell their house for years now. Buyers come and go, come and go. And if they would only move that inner blockade then I am sure they would find the right buyer. I know they are not ready. But finally this year, they are looking for a new place and started making plans again. I only hope that they will let go soon and didn’t start looking only because they have to.
    When the pressure is gone and everything feels good, things happen and change is on the way. Good luck and enjoy planning your new home!

    Franziska San Pedro
    The Abstract Impressionist Artress

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks so much Franziska. Glad you enjoyed this. I agree totally with what you say here, that your parents still have their house because they don’t want to let it go. When we start to allow, big things happen. x

  4. Fiona,
    I enjoyed your post and the idea of knowing when to let go! That is something that is hard for me sometimes – I like to be in control. It is something I am trying to do more frequently, however. It’s amazing what doors open, when you do let go. Thanks for sharing and keep us posted!

    Carrie Hansen
    Snuggery Style

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks Carrie. It’s great that you are willing to persevere with this and when you feel how you land safely with it all you will naturally do it more and more.

  5. Several years back we were faced with a very challenging financial situation. I’m not sure where my ‘knowing’ came from but throughout the whole process I was confident that all would be well, that there was nothing to fear. It seems a recurring theme for me to attend to…that leaning into your beliefs and intuition will allow you to overcome any challenge. The trick of course is listening and being patient.

    Darcie Newton
    Discipline for profit, none for jammy zins or memorable necklaces

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for sharing that Darcie. I agree that the more we listen and don’t try to force things, the more everything clicks into place.

  6. I wonderful turn of events for you that puts you in the seat of power, relying on your intuition to guide you. As you know, I am a big believer in gut feeling, intuitive feelings and knowing when something is just “right”. I deeply hope (and know)the perfect house will come along and you will feel it! Moving is so upsetting to our systems but if it’s the perfect place, it can be exciting and rewarding. Yes, I have experience this recently with my involvement w/SNCC as a coach. Just felt it was the right time and place! Keep us posted on your journey!

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks Laurie. glad to hear your move was right. We have moved a lot over the years and this time I would like to bring a bit more stability into the equation. I’ll certainly keep you posted.

  7. The time I can think of the most is moving to Australia. We had so much to do to emigrate and it was all timing but I just ‘knew’ it would all go well. We had no work to go to, no home there etc etc. In fact it all did go smoothly. We sold our home at the top of the market (just before the dip), found a flat that would let us rent month to month, got a deal with moving our belongings from a relative, got our visas in time to attend my cousins wedding in Adelaide and Chaz found work right away. I wish the move here had gone as smoothly but I fought this move so maybe that’s why it didn’t. Thanks and I hope you find the right home.
    Louise Edington
    Finding YOUR Freedom

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks a lot Louise. Your move to Australia really was in the flow. And you knew it was all good. Great. It so works when we surrender and just allow.

  8. Fiona, I admire your approach to something that is ranked one of the highest stressors around. Real Estate in general, and changes to our own home in particular, can be triggers for anxiety, depression, and all sorts of tension.
    I’ll share this as one of those examples of the delayed benefits of meditation. I tell patients that it is more like flossing: you might not notice results right away, but when you experience a personal crisis resolved with no stress, that’s when the meditation pays off.

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks a lot for you comment Dorothy. Yes, changes to our home situation challenge our feelings of security and well-being in a huge way. I love your analogy of flossing. That’s what I experienced many years ago when I first started meditating. I wasn’t reacting in the same way to stress. And it has got better over the years. It doesn’t mean there is no internal stress, but I am much better able find my answers and certainty.

  9. Yes, I’ve had to deal with a number of situations that were totally beyond my control and I realized that my inner state of mind was the only thing that I had complete control over. At times, I experienced total peace in the midst of chaos just because I decided to…
    Brandy Mychals
    Speaker, Author, Communications Coach
    Creator of the Character Code System

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks Brandy. Yes, when we decide to stop circumstances running our life, we can start to take our power back. Glad to hear that you’ve found that peace despite what is going on around you.

  10. Yvonne Hall says:

    You’re an inspiration to me since I have yet to harness and hon in on my intuition on this level. Can’t wait to watch your progress and learn more from you along the way!
    Yvonne Hall

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks Yvonne. Lovely to connect with you and glad to inspire. I’m very much enjoying progressing and interacting with everyone on the way.

  11. Pat Zahn says:

    Fiona – I don’t really know you but feel I have come to know a bit about you through your blog. I have noticed quite a change in your confidence and think it’s fabulous! Not allowing others to decide our fates is powerful stuff. I trust my intuition almost 100% – many people have told me that I’m “intuitive” – only recently have I accepted that – I always thought everyone should be, they just have to open their eyes. I still believe that everyone can be, but for some personalities it takes more effort. My resistance is a tendency to shut down when I encounter things that don’t go my way. I’m very analytical so I have to get some distance so I can work things through.

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks so much for your comments and support Pat. It’s always wonderful to get feedback along the way. It’s so true – we are in control of our own destiny. I’m like you in that I always thought everyone else was exactly like me. Seeing, feeling and understanding things, but it wasn’t so. However, I also believe that everyone can.

      I’ve had a long pattern of resistance and more recently I have learned to breathe into it and keep moving. I can understand your tendency to shut down. But I also believe that you’re not ‘analytical’ Pat. You may have analytical characteristics but that doesn’t define you.

      How about – I’m very intuitive and can easily and effortlessly work through things as they arise.

      What you’re doing sounds great.

      • Pat Zahn says:

        I like being analytical, but you’re right, I need to be able to choose that when appropriate, not let it define me. I’m breathing and saying, “I’m very intuitive and can easily and effortlessly work through things as they arise. ” Thanks.

        • Fiona Stolze says:

          That’s great to hear Pat! Yes, every trait has its benefits and drawbacks but they really don’t define us.

  12. Irene Turner says:

    LOVE people who listen to their God voice with-in. Good for you Fiona. I knew there was a reason I resonate with you! you go girl…and make sure your landlord fixes all those problems! I’m sure your God energy will make sure that is taken care of as well!

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks Irene and it’s lovely to connect with you too. Everything is being taken care of, isn’t it? I love sharing this connection with those who respond to what I put out there. It’s important to experience this energy and to be a part of it.

  13. When we moved to Northern CA from Southern CA, I also just knew. My intuition told me it was the right move and the right time. When we purchased our house, neither of us had yet found jobs and it was not the kind of thing we normally did, but I knew it would be OK. My husband got his job in June and I got mine the day the movers came to move us in August. It was the best move we could have made and we’ve never once regretted it.

    Susan Berland
    A Picture’s Worth

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      That’s so nice to hear. It’s important to take action on the messages we receive and to know that all is in perfect order.

  14. Lovely story, Fiona.

    So reassuring to witness the calm and confidence faith inspires. Helps you cope.

    Each of us seems to have faith in SOMETHING. Do you suppose it’s a part of human nature we all share? Whatever we have faith in, do we all NEED to have faith? Looks that way.


    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for commenting Robbie. I know we are all connected and simply express ourselves in different ways all over the planet. Although we all seem to have different belief systems and do things different ways, we are all of the same substance, have come from the same place and are going the same way despite how things may look.

      I don’t look on it as needing anything. I love to tap into my divine connection with source. This divine spark is my core essence. And everything springs from that. Whether we call the connection God, the Source of all Creation or anything else, it doesn’t matter.

      When I am consciously connected, I feel my oneness with everything and everyone. I am infinite.

      You see, the world we have created and relate to with our senses is no more real than a Hollywood film. However, this is material for a whole book, a whole lifetime and goes well beyond the limits of this thread.

      Thanks for asking Robbie. Namaste.

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  16. “Yet deep down, I knew that all was well.” This is the statement that stands out for me in this beautiful sharing of your relationship to your intuition. How comforting to come to that place where we can feel and know the truth deep inside even though circumstances, and even our own conflicting feelings, tell us otherwise. It’s no coincidence, Fiona, that I had an experience today just like the one you describe where you turned down the house you loved–under duress–because you knew it wasn’t right for you. Thank you not only for a wonderful post, but for me, I confirmation of the choice I made today. Listening makes all the difference.

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Maridel, thanks so much for your lovely comment. And synchronicity is a beautiful thing. I actually sat and cried over the house I saw because I knew it wasn’t right for us to take it. And then I let go. I’m glad this gave you confirmation of what is going on for you.

      When the message comes, it comes with such clarity and certainty, doesn’t it? And there’s no arguing with that. We all just need to listen more. It’s all there.

  17. What a wonderful story! Your serenity was apparent throughout. I know I have had experiences like this, although they elude me at the moment. I can definitely think of the opposite! When my father died and I had to sell his home–right at a terrible time in the housing market–I experienced a great deal of stress, especially because there was a question of water leaking in the basement. I had so much trouble letting it go, even though I was across the country from the realtor and know nothing about selling houses! I was like the person trying to “help” the pilot land a plane by looking out the window and worrying. The house did sell, but I remember my tension.

    I can’t wait to hear about the home you come to when the time is right!

    Judy Stone-Goldman
    The Reflective Writer
    My cat owns me, my clutter stymies me, my writing frees me. Word maven loves—and learns from—ordinary life.

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for sharing that Judy and thank you, too, for your appreciation of this post. I was smiling at your description of the person helping the pilot….lovely! I must remember that one for future reference.

  18. Donna McCord says:

    I agree, Fiona, that when we are in a resistant state of mind it just makes things more difficult and painful. I admire how, in a potentially very stressful situation, you were able to just let go and trust. I do that through prayer and then trust in God and He has never let me down! One very memorable situation was a few years ago when our whole financial situation was potentially devastating and the results could have been the worst imaginable, yet I prayed knowing that whatever happened, it would be for the best. I assured my husband that all would be well (which I know he doubted strongly!), and everything did work out in our favor! Praise God! It is so comforting to me to know we are in His care. I can’t wait to hear from you when you find your new place to live…I just know it will be exactly what you want!

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks so much for your lovely comment Donna. It’s wonderful to hear how you trust so deeply and know that all will be well. I am so looking forward to one day being able to report about how our new house has manifested.

  19. It is amazing how well things go when we surrender to the process. This is a wonderful example of how it works in the world. I’ve experienced it and watching it working for others so often. Now, if I could only remember to do it 😉

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for commenting Kerry. Just set intention to do at the next opportunity and relax knowing it will happen.

  20. Love this! It’s amazing when you let go what can manifest. I’ve experienced this many of times that if I hold on so tight to something it just keeps spiraling downward, but as soon as I let go…like magic…it happens…the outcome…perfect where it needed to be. I now envision for you the dream home finds it’s way to you so effortlessly and beautifully. Thanks for this inspirational post.

    Alara K. Castell
    Your Sassy Spiritual Guide

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks a lot for your support and comments Alara. I’ll definitely blog when the new home reveals itself.

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