Inspired by Gangaji’s Biography ‘Just Like You’.

I have always loved the challenge to dig deeper and really discover aspects of myself that I didn’t know were there.

But I’m coming to see more and more that in actual fact, it’s not so much about always digging and trying to uncover things. It’s more about putting the things to one side that are simply blocking my view.

I’d like to share with you how I’ve been inspired through Gangaji and her teachings on this topic:

I love the idea of how realisations can hit us almost instantaneously and that we can waken up to a much deeper understanding of ourselves just by becoming really honest about who we are.

It always strikes home with me how caught up I am in my self constructed persona when I fill in forms about who I am, what I do, etc. When I give descriptions of myself that will portray me in the best possible light. I always take care to choose words that will resonate with those reading it. And I make sure that what I have written sounds good in my own ears. I take this whole presentation of self thing so seriously.

How often have I sat and played with the words, edited and re-edited until I was satisfied that I had created the best possible image of myself that I could muster. Even now, thinking about it, I still find it hard to give a quick description of exactly what I do, of who I am.

It’s time for me to get over worrying about how other people look upon me. And let go of the telling my story. Because it’s the story-telling that keeps me from being in the present. With the story in place, I have to always keep checking that everything matches up to it. Without the story, I can let go and know that everything just is the way it is.

So I’m setting intention to use my props less and less and learn not to lean on my own fabrications.

Where in your life do you lean too heavily on props? Are you aware of who you are underneath all your projections? I’d love you to share your experiences.

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12 Responses to Inspired by Gangaji’s Biography ‘Just Like You’.

  1. Hi Fiona,

    I always tell myself and others to stop being so serious. I have found that worrying about whether or not I doing things the RIGHT way makes me feel defensive and uptight about every little thing that doesn’t go the way I think it should go.

    These are symptoms of having lost my “inner child” and myability to just LET GO and enjoy and accept myself and my life for what it IS–not for what I think it “should” be.

    When we take a deep breath and do something SILLY and spontaneous for a change, it will open us up in ways you cannot even imagine.

    Rachel Lavern
    Personal Transformation, Enlightenment and Development Coach
    “Live without limits because nothing is impossible to you.”

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Hi Rachel,

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I love what you shared about doing something silly. Laughter is really deeply healing, isn’t it? And can really transform things. Wishing you a day with something silly in it. 🙂

  2. bill austin howe says:

    Although I haven’t read that particular book, it is very much a part of my philosophy. It fits in with the blog I wrote today which I will share with The Circulation Desk next week.

    As an actor for most of my life, I not only portrayed myself in the most positive light but I portrayed others as well. I realized that this was not the best road for me as my spiritual life grew. So at age 50 I decided to retire in order to follow a more fulfilling path. How freeing it has been to be myself, my true self, and to share that with others.

    I enjoyed this blog immensely. It was nice to hear a reflection of my own way of thinking

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Hi Bill, so nice to hear that you enjoyed this vlog. I agree that it’s very freeing to just be ourselves and not have to try to do anything in particular. I’ll look forward to reading what you have written too. Thanks so much for commenting.

  3. Reading this at the beginning of an open day was just perfect for me, Fiona. I have been writing and reflecting on myself, this day, what is right before me. I particularly like how you observed that sometimes it’s just a matter of “putting things to one side” that are blocking rather than “digging deep.” I often think about “getting out of my own way” in the same vein.

    Letting go of others’ impressions, learning to be ourselves just as we truly are without meeting others’ approval – definitely on-going lessons for me as well, and worth every moment. Really enjoying your process around this.

    Judy Stone-Goldman
    The Reflective Writer
    http://www.thereflectivewriter.com/blog/
    Personal-Professional Balance Through Writing

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks Judy for your comments. I always love to hear your reflections on things. In a way it’s a bit like constant heavy snowfall that is obstructing the view of beautiful paving stones. They’re always there nevertheless. Or perhaps heavy curtains that stop the sun from shining into the room…

      Thanks for journeying with me. x

  4. Lisa N Valero says:

    Oh Fiona! Wonderful vlog and blog!!!!
    I especially like what Gangaji says: “Stop chasing after who you think you are and simply be.”~ Definitely food for thought!
    I think as life rushes by on a daily basis we get caught up in resolving and getting things accomplished that need to be done. As your kids grow up, meting their needs, providing for them and fulfilling their many activities and obligations. I think we rarely stop and BE. I did make sure to enjoy the moment, to treasure the daily experiences, and not be blinded by the next thing that had to be done, but you are definitely juggling personas: mom, employee, friend, daughter, sister.
    This message is very timely, because I have found myself trying to define who I think I am versus who I am.
    On my to-do list today – find Gangaji’s “Just Like You Biography”!!!!
    As always Fiona! your messages are so inspiring and continuously prompt me to move forward in my journey! Thank you!!! ♥♥♥
    (I wholeheartedly agree with Heidi’s whole first paragraph – you are a natural vlogger!!! You embrace your viewer ♥)

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Lisa, as always, I so appreciate your support in this journey and love to read your feedback and hear how your experiences are. If this work is inspiring you, then I am honoured to have contributed to that.

      I hope you manage to get Gangaji’s book. I think Amazon will be a safe bet. This is her biography and she has a new book coming out very soon, which I am very excited about. A big hug to you Lisa. <3

  5. I may have to look that book up – after I have got through the big pile I already have. I found the Who Am I activity in SNCC really helped me dog down and keep it real. Though I guess I chose the nicer words lol. I don’t know if I rely on props so much since going through that process – I like to think that what you see is what you get.
    Louise Edington
    Breaking Through Online Frontiers
    http://louiseedington

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for sharing Louise. And I think you will really love the book if you find the time to have a look at it. I’m like you – I always have a few books waiting on the pile. 🙂

  6. Fiona – I know I repeat myself, but you are such a natural vlogger! and your videos just get better & better. You are looking so comfortable in front of the camera and your light shines through the screen —- love it!!

    But, as you said, we worry far too much about how others perceive us (so you can now ignore the above comment — lol!) 🙂

    When I find myself thinking too much about what others think of me or how I appear to others I stop & push those thoughts away (ok, it’s taken me a long time & I’m still not totally there all the time!). I have a silly affirmation that I write when I’m in that headspace: “it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of me because I know I’m awesome”

    Thank you for introducing us to this author. After I’m done “just being” and I will see if my library has her book.

    Heidi & Atticus
    http://www.atticusuncensored.com
    “commentary to give you paws…”

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks a lot for that feedback. The part of me that leans on props is very grateful! 🙂

      I love your affirmation and yes, you are awesome. Nothing silly about that. I think you will like what Gangaji has to share. It’s certainly been a real eye and mind opener for me in many ways. I’d love to chat to you about it afterwards. Enjoy. xx

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