Be Careful What You Ask For…You Might Just Get It (Part One)

Isn’t it amazing how often we complain that we have wished for and worked towards something and yet it just didn’t manifest in our lives. And yet if we took the time to sit down for a moment and have a good look, we would see that what we asked for did indeed manifest, just not in the form we were expecting it.

Bath on a sunny afternoon in March 2011

The more precise we are in our requests, the more likely they are to show up the way we would like them to.

One example I came across a few years ago was where the housewife wished her husband could spend more time looking after the kids so that she could be out more. With no further specifications on the cosmic ordering form, that one was delivered as the husband becoming unemployed and the woman having to go out and take on a 9-5 job to make ends meet.

Perhaps not the manifestation the woman was hoping for, but certainly a very valid interpretation of the request. Some vital details were missing which could have taken this in a totally different direction. She omitted to say what sort of experience she actually wanted for herself amongst other things. One thing is for sure though, she got what she asked for.

When I am meditating or journalling or doing any other exercise where I am filling out my wishlist for what I would love to manifest in my life, I always ask for it to manifest for the highest good of all concerned. That way I am making sure that whatever happens will keep things in balance and no-one will be going home with their tail between their legs.

If I have my eye on a specific job somewhere and continue to visualise me working there and feeling really happy and fulfilled, it won’t work if I don’t have any regard for the person who already works in that position. By asking that I manifest this job for the highest good of all concerned, there’s a possibility that the other person suddenly gets a wonderful job offer somewhere else that they just can’t say no to. Or that they suddenly want to sell up and travel the world. It’s great to totally surrender to this process and just watch what can happen when everything is in the flow.

I wanted to share something with you that happened this weekend and that did more than bring a smile to my face. Yesterday morning I sat writing my journal when the sun came out unexpectedly. I had a great urge to go off and do something outdoors and so began contemplating different possibilities. The perfect idea popped into my head. A day trip over to Bath. We hadn’t been there in such a long time.

It was a lovely day, sunny with blue skies. I’ll be documenting the trip with some photos in a future post, but this is the lovely bit that I wanted to share with you.

As I sat this morning thinking about what a lovely manifestation the day had been, I realised I had got just exactly what I had asked for in the morning – a lovely warm Bath! I just had to chuckle out loud at that. I really got exactly what I asked for – just with a slightly different angle. But every bit as delicious. And I’m very grateful for that.

I’ll be sharing some further insights on this with you in Part Two.

Have you recently got what you asked for and did it show up in the way you hoped for it? I’d love you to share your comments below. Thanks.

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43 Responses to Be Careful What You Ask For…You Might Just Get It (Part One)

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  2. Hi Fiona,
    Thanks for your very thoughtful story โ€” with the surprise ending. Provocative, as usual, and you really got me thinking about visualizing and wishing. I’m uncertain what to say or where to begin, and I apologize for the length of my reply. Please tell me if I make sense to you.
    My time as a schoolteacher showed me that some of life’s most important aspects can’t be measured, counted, or graded. So I seldom discount ANYTHING. Yet my time as a scientist showed me that one good way to get to the heart of something is to systematically test and replicate it, whether or not we understand the what, why, or how of it. So I always like to find evidence to support believing an idea.
    These days I often experience revelations like your “Bath” story. I understand them simply as ironic surprises, which I see only because my thinking about the subject earlier “sensitized” me to notice them, in whatever guise I recognize them. In other words, the source of my surprise lies not in the revelation itself, but in my ability to perceive it.
    See what I getting at? For my way of thinking, this is a perfectly good explanation. No need to invoke anything so mysterious and vague as Cosmic Ordering, though I have no evidence to discount it or support it. Having evidence would be nice, but I’m afraid this is a case of “I’ll see it only when I believe it”. Until then, it’ll be too untestable and “touchy-feely” for me.
    Bottom line: I whole-heartedly agree with you that visualizing, or mentally rehearsing, is a powerful motivator. It “sets our sights”. Imagine, seeing yourself accomplishing the result before it happens! I do it every time I perform, I’m sure you do, too, and you’ll find no end to the number of people reporting the same thing โ€” athletes, artists, adventurers, business people, etc.
    To my way of thinking, this is what you were doing when you wished for “a lovely warm Bath”, and you detected the irony after returning from your visit.
    Wow, I just noticed that your post is Part 1, and now I’m looking forward to enjoying Part 2. I’ll give you a shorter reply next time. Promise.

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks so much Robbie. I enjoyed reading your detailed response. It’s always lovely to see things from everyone else’s perspective. I believe firmly that it doesn’t matter how you get there, the main thing is, you make a commitment to starting the journey in whatever form.

      And it really makes sense to get this more scientific response as everything is in perfect balance. I notice that in everything I do. There will be the support and challenge as that is the way of things and it couldn’t be otherwise.

      At the end of the day, everything is pure energy vibrating at all sorts of frequencies and the messages we put out there resonate with all the other messages of the same frequency. The things that appear in our lives are the things we are truly in tune with.

      I totally agree with you regarding our ability to see things. I believe that many people walk through life with their eyes wide shut and miss half of the opportunities that present themselves. I may never have even made that bath connection (but then, I could never have missed it!). I have my radar set to picking up these delightful synchronicities and enjoy experiencing them and feel grateful for their occurrence.

      One thing that brought a smile to my face was your reference to cosmic ordering as mysterious and vague. I find my ordering highly specific and to the point – but it brings us back to the whole question of perception. We all see the world differently and that’s good. I love the differences and it’s what keeps things interesting. Thanks a lot again Robbie.

      Thanks again for commenting.

      • Hi Fiona,
        Thanks for replying. I sense that we share many of the same attitudes, despite our vastly different perspectives, and it’s a delight to bounce ideas back and forth with you. One of these days, we’ll manage to have a face-to-face chat (maybe Skype can help here), and we’ll probably take turns speaking and listening and rolling our eyes. Til then, I’ll look forward to your next post.

  3. Love Bath….was there many years ago…right now I’m all about serving more people and priority time with my daughter – so far, all is working ๐Ÿ™‚
    Brandy Mychals
    Speaker, Author, Communications Coach
    Creator of Split Second Perceptions

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Glad to hear that things are in the flow with your wishlist Brandy. And I really hope you feel better soon. Look after yourself. x

  4. As you know Fiona I had put myself out there and applied to speak at a conference – and used my blog as my journal to ask for this. Well I haven’t heard from the conference yet but I went to a networking group yesterday and in a laser session got 4 minutes to talk about what I do and what I’m looking for and I got asked to speak by one of the other business people there! More and more I’m convinced that we get what we ask for but yes, always be careful what you ask for as it can come in unexpected ways!
    Louise Edington
    Finding YOUR Freedom

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Great to hear that things are in the flow for you Louise. It’s always worth while asking, isn’t it? And just bringing a bit of awareness to the asking helps to channel it the right way. Congratulations on the speaking engagement. Wonder who will speak up there and engage you further.

  5. Yes, it is true….I remember when we signed up for foster care and asked if they ever took in babies (knowing we were asking for girls aged 4-7 because of my daughter) the woman looked at me and said be careful what you ask for…it just might happen. And it did! This has stayed with me ever since. I love that you point out that what you wish for could negatively effect others so asking for it with the highest good is wonderful (I will add this to my affirmations). Thank you for great insight….looking forward to part 2.

    Rita Brennan Freay

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for sharing your story Rita. I think including others in what we wish for is the only way to go. What goes around comes around.

  6. Fiona – I love that you ask for what you wish but add the caveat “for the highest good of all concerned.” That makes perfect karmic sense! Thank you for sharing.

  7. Pat Zahn says:

    Fiona – I absolutely LOVE that picture – I want that in my newly remodeled bathroom! We are planning our summer vacation and I really want to do Ireland-Scotland-England – any suggestions? But, I digress…or maybe not…

    To your question, I can’t really think of anything that I’ve asked for that didn’t show up the way I hoped. I don’t think I ask for things nearly enough…hmmm, may be telling…

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Okay, we can talk picture Pat. And I’m sure I can give you some suggestions for the Scotland, England and Ireland trip. Great to hear that you’re such a great manifester when you ask. Try asking more?

  8. Kathy Alice says:

    This reminds me of a scene in a book I once read. The student was working with a teacher to become more enlightened. The teacher gave the student the task of visualizing an object with the purpose of manifesting it. To be a bit contrary, the student decided to focus his thoughts on a blue feather since, as we all know feathers aren’t normally blue, just to prove the teacher wrong. One day the blue feather appeared, but as a picture on a carton of milk. The teacher then told him that he had manifested the feather but failed to give the universe the additional needed details – so it manifested in an unexpected way, very similar to your story of the woman with the unemployed husband. And yes, Bath is a really cute town.

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  10. Fiona your posts always give me a lift. The Universe has a sense of humor. and we humans can be way too literal and serious. I like the idea of focusing on manifestations to the Highest Good. I have opened up my heart lately to abundance and whatever joy the Universe is willing to share, and I have been astonished at how much I have been blessed. Truly, life gets better every day. I wanted a tribe and I have found it in you, SNCC & my local community. Life does give us exactly what we ask for, words and thoughts have immense power, as do surroundings.
    Love your new site.

    Jennifer Duchene
    Home Makeover Mixtress blending lifestyle laughter and Diva Dens

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks so much for your lovely comment, Jen. So happy to be part of your tribe. And isn’t it nice to bring humour and light-heartedness into everything. Being open to receive and embrace everything allows that flow to really increase. Gotta love it!

  11. Fiona,
    So glad you had such a wonderful warm “bath.” Thank you for sharing your story with us.

    Carrie Hansen
    Snuggery Style

  12. I’m currently asking for abundance in my business. I love your thoughts on this as without more specificity I can see that this could overwhelm and stress me and that is not at all what I have in mind. I have to add “for the highest good for all concerned.” That simple statement changes everything. And keeping an open mind and heart helps too as you did with your request for a warm bath! I love you, Fiona!

    Susan Berland
    A Picture’s Worth

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for commenting Susan and so glad to be of help. This way we can trust that we are in the flow and that everything is unfolding in perfection (which it is anyway). And I love you too. x

  13. Great article Fiona. I’m very inspired in the same way you are. I love to journal and if I put it down, it seems to happen more and more often which is beautiful. I have been working on this myself for 3 years. Sometimes I don’t see it immediately, but sometimes I do like catching the green light or the perfect parking spot. Just recently, I had a wish come to be a part of my nephews life. He just turned 2 and I spend 3 days with him. Although, it happened as a result of some life changing things for my brother, I’m still thankful for it happening.

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for sharing your experiences Wendee and glad you enjoyed the post. I love the way that things we journal about just take on a life of their own.

  14. Donna McCord says:

    Your posts always have me thinking lovely and peaceful thoughts! I would love to some day visit Bath and see this place that so many people are describing as a memorable experience! The photo is very appealing and restful…it brings back memories of how, as a child, I dreamed of living in a magical place like that — I always enjoyed reading stories and books about castles and princes and everyone living happily ever after! I believe that we have much more power in our thought processes than we realize, and try to remember what I have read in the Bible so many times about keeping our minds focused on the positive, that God wants only what is best for us, and how when we ask for things (pray) to do so with thanksgiving, which means we trust it will be done. Doubt and fear block the good that we desire. I love how your gentle spirit comes through your writing, Fiona!

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks so much for your lovely comments Donna. I love the trust and acceptance you bring to the table and your ability to focus on the good in things. Set intention to see Bath and it will manifest on the horizon. x

  15. Such an inspiring, feel good post. Thanks Fiona – as you know, I needed that today.
    I am looking forward to a sunny day that the boys and I can take a much needed adventure and escape to a beautiful place.
    I look forward to the photos…cannot wait! Rachel

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Rachel, I’m glad you felt inspired and so wish you and your boys some sun and fun. Sending you love. xx

  16. Grace Kelly says:

    Great piece Fiona!
    I agree with Alara also, that it is fine to affirm it will happen and to visualize it but unless there is an energy of “deserving” around it and you really feel it then manifestations don’t occur.
    The biggest manifestations I have created in my life from homes to my current partner, came from the massive VOID of not having them but really really wanting them!! I had to do a bit of work on “deserving” them and then bam, they appeared.
    Love it, Universal Energy, God, Angels whatever, it wants us to have what we want in life, first we must feel worthy.
    Gratitude, Grace
    “Encouraging you to experience life gracefully”

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for your comments Grace. I totally agree with what you are saying here and am so glad that your wishlist came into being. And worthiness….that is a subject for shelves of books, isn’t it?

  17. Beautiful writing, as always Fiona! I have been to Bath and it truly remains a wonderful memory for me. Such a quaint town. Love the imagery and that your “wish” manifested the way it did for you yesterday. Can’t wait to read Part Two.
    To answer your question – yes, I wished for another darling little girl to be my daughter, and, as you know we adopted her and all hell broke loose. Still dealing with that and will always be. But, then there is probably a silver lining here that just hasn’t made itself obvious to me yet!

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks Laurie. Lovely to hear you’ve been there too and like the city so much. It certainly is a popular spot. I firmly believe we always get exactly what we asked for. I like to look at the person I’ve become and how my character has developed as a result of past choices. You’ve just given me an idea of something to include in part 2 Laurie x

  18. I was quite taken with your story about Bath! I have been thinking about Bath lately because I’m reading a book where some scenes take place there. I was there many years ago–in the early 1970s–but my experience has stayed with me. I also remember some things about myself then, some struggles I had, and I am grateful to be able to look back on them as a different person now. All this has been going on in my mind–and then there was your picture!

    Wonderful post, full of such positive energy.

    Judy Stone-Goldman
    The Reflective Writer
    Balance, Boundaries, and New Life Directions Through Writing

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      I love synchronicities. It’s amazing how many people have been there and love the place. It is very beautiful. I will be posting some more pics in the next day or two. Glad you enjoyed this.

  19. Julie Labes says:

    I love this post Fiona and yes we have to be very careful what we wish for, the universe doesn’t ask us to clarify it just ‘does” i hope you had a lovely bath and a lovely time in Bath

  20. Bath is one of my favorite places in Britain. I will actually be in Britain this summer.

    Your blog is another reminder that we should grateful for what we have, and if we ask for more or different, we should be accepting of all that comes.

    Every experience in life has merit. This statement and mindset is very freeing!

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for your comments Alicia. Yes, gratitude for what we have and acceptance of all that comes. That’s sometimes the hard bit isn’t it?

  21. Your post is so true and everything Rachel shares is wonderful, too. One thing that I would like to add is that saying it is one thing, but feeling it in every fiber of your body that it can be true is another part of adding this type of energy to manifest what you want. I remember when I used to say affirmations I was just saying them. I had doubts if it could possibly happen. The times when I wanted to manifest I would envision it already happening and embrace the feeling of love and appreciation for it. When I hold what I want from here is when the true manifestation happens for me.

    Thank you for sharing this and reminding us of what can be.

    Alara K. Castell
    Your Sassy Spiritual Guide

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks Alara and glad you liked the post. I totally agree with the points you make here and will be touching on some of this in part two. Our appreciation for what we have is key in attracting more.

  22. Your post goes to show that we must be energy efficient–be conscious of our “energy”. Like energy attracts like energy; therefore, “what you sow you shall reap.” Deliberately choosing positive feelings and focal points will keep us in alignment with your desires. I hear people say ‘affirmations’ do not work but what they do not realize is that every word is an affirmation. Thus, life is a reflection of what we affirm most often. It is just that most of the time we are not intentional and specific about what we choose to affirm. Most of the time we are reacting to what is before us–completely mindless (or careless) as to the consequences of our default reactions. Reactions are affirmations. Every word is an affirmation. Reacting, facing reality, expanding on what already is drains the energy right out of your real goals.

    Rachel Lavern
    Personal Transformation, Enlightenment and Development Coach
    “Live without limits because nothing is impossible to you.”

    • Fiona Stolze says:

      Thanks for your comments Rachel. Yes, being more conscious of our energy can help us attract the things we really desire. And thatโ€™s a great point you made about everything being an affirmation. If this were all so easy, everyone would have everything they wanted all of the time. It just requires a bit of work and awareness. Life is an interesting roller coaster.

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